Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Babies can show signs of separation anxiety as early as 6 or 7 months, but the crisis age for most babies is between 12 to 18 months. - Yikes!!

Rowena is really going through this stage with me and absolutely can't let me out of her sight! THis morning, she cried her lungs out when I dropped her off at the babysitters and I felt so heartless as I just walked off as I had to rush off to work. Her eyes were filled with tears and looked so pityful.

Even at home, she cries the moment she cant see me like when i go to the toilet, to another room, the kitchen. She will crawl all over the house, crying 'mama, mama' looking for me. Its getting really bad in the mornings as she does not want anyone else. She never says 'mama' unless she is looking for me.

I recall Harvynna being like that but I cant remember when she grew out of that stage. Harvynna, on the other hand, is quite the independant toddler now, and can entertain herself by watching tv, playing with her toys. Sometimes, she tries to console Rowena, by asking her'What's wrong? - you want mama?' but thats no help.

Looking at the bright side - Rowena's crying when I am not seen means that I am the most important person to her...... So I should just enjoy that even though it can be very difficult. I met someone yesterday, who told me that when a child is between 0-2 years plus, they need you more than ever, when they are about 3-7, they want you to participate in their activities, from 7-10, they want you around selectively, once they turn 13, they dont wnat you around anymore and would rather be with their friends - so I should just seize the moment while I can.

As impossible as it must seem, my baby has experienced almost an entire year of life. So many changes have sprung up at every turn, all leading to even more fun and fulfillment. Only yesterday, Rowena just fit into the crook of my arm; today, she is already taking few steps on her own. Soon, she will be running around with Harvynna and I will miss her clingy baby days!

4 comments:

Etcetera~Mommy said...

I understand how it feels. Ryan also started crying out pitifully for me when I left him for work in the morns...:( Just hv to be strong.. hopefully they can get over the phase soon...

mom2ashley said...

ya true..enjoy it while it lasts...although sometimes it can be a pain

Nadia said...

Oh dear me! Irfan doesn't cry when I leave him at my parents', but he has started refusing to sit in his car seat. But for a while onlylah. But still...? And he cannot not see either of us within his sight.. he'll cry and cry until he sees us. And he won't come looking. He'll just stay rooted at where he's at and wait for us, even when we have called him out! *slaps forehead*

huisia said...

Ya, enjoy the moment though it can be very hard to bear..